From these 173 adults, 79% of them saw positive outcomes from the divorce. This is huge! Usually we only hear about the negative side effects on children but that's at such a young age where they can't fathom what's going on. Is daddy leaving forever? When these children grow up they look back on their upbringing and come to realize that what happened is for the best. Of course divorce isn't easy and can have lasting effects on some, but it doesn't necessarily mean that a family is destroyed. Divorce did not cause any family problems, life before it did. Incompatible relationships, not children form the foundation of divorce. When interviewing a 3, 9, or 12 year old about their parent's divorce they're most likely going to repeat what their parents tell them or what that they don't understand what's happening. When interviewing the same a decade or so later, they'll realize that their parents weren't as happy as they could've been and that in the end, divorce probably made the family closer.
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I think that this was a great point that you made about the positive affects that can come out of divorce as well. I think that most people do view divorce as a terrible thing, which it can be but if it is for the better because the parents shouldn't be together then the outcomes of the divorce can be good. I was pleasantly surprised by the percentage being so high. It was a really good idea to find something about the way adults feel now about the divorce of their parents because you never really hear it from adults anymore. I have only heard articles about the way children feel about it but never about the adults. I believe it is a good idea to also hear the view from divorce from young adults and mature adults because they have a more mature view and their own way of thinking instead of children who often will repeat what there parents tell him and don't really understand it.
A great post!
I completely agree with you that divorce is not a dirty word! I just hope that with each new year more and more women will start to see, understand and what is even more important - accept the truth. By the way, you may click here to find out the average divorce cost. It's always useful to know the necessary budget.
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